Whatever age you are and wherever your are in life, there always remains a sliver of ourselves that wants to fit in and be liked by others. But how do we go about accomplishing this endeavor?
I read How to Win Friends and Influence People and here are some takeaways from the book:
- Don’t fight to get what you want; see, reiterate, and understand the other person’s perspective
- Get them to say yes from the onset by asking pointed questions designed to get them to say yes and then redirect the conversation towards your goal
- Admit fault first
- Always make the other person feel important
- People like talking about themselves and their interests
- People like their own names the most. Use their name frequently in conversation
- Act happy, be happy
- Smile
- See things not only from your perspective but from other’s perspectives
- When forming requests, phrase it so that the other person’s perspective takes the primary focus and there is little or ideally no mention of your perspective or wants
- Appreciate people and make them feel important
- The only way to get someone to do something is to make them want to do it
- True, sincere appreciation for people will make them more receptive to you
- Be hearty in approbation and lavish with praise
- Flattery is cheap
- Compliment in the moment; don’t wait for the right time, there will never be a right time
- Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain about others
- Seek to understand them without judgment or assumption
- Criticism of others is futile; it will only make them defensive and vengeful
- Find praise to talk about a person when speaking about them to others
Do you have other books you would recommend? Let me know by leaving a comment below!
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