Life Fright

These are the words that changed everything for me. Growing up, we’re fed this notion that the world is good and people are out there who will come into our lives and things will be magically better. This is simply not true. The transition from childhood to adulthood makes this abundantly clear. There is an inordinate amount of people who go into adulthood with childhood traumas and no one was around to save them.

Everyone has their own lives to worry about and take care of. Think about yourself. You know yourself better than any one. After all, you literally live with yourself day in and day out. How often do you think about others and what they are going through? It probably is not every second of every day. At best it may be days rather than the few seconds or minutes of empathizing that we as a society have grown accustomed to when taking in the news for the day. Likewise, to think that someone out there (if you’re extremely lucky) will turn your life around for the better out of the goodness of their heart is a fool’s errand. You cannot count on this to happen. And if you’ve been waiting for this epic save, you may be waiting for the rest of your life.

No one is coming to save you is the epiphany I needed to hear to change my perspective on how to handle life and I hope that it also gives you the push to change your own life. I am more than capable of handling myself, my traumas, fears, hopes, ambitions, and dreams. If not me, then who? And why am I not enough to change the trajectory of my life? I am more than enough. I’m my own best friend, confidante, and mentor. I’m my own biggest supporter stoking the embers of the dreams that I have. It is up to me to make them happen. It is not the responsibility of anyone else.

Don’t get me wrong, as a member of society of course you will have to count on others to advance in some aspects like work. Those are out of my control. I am only responsible for what I am able to change. If others take that and view it differently, then that’s their view and it is up to me to discern fact from fiction. In turn, once you get yourself to a good place and are able to take care of yourself independently, then you are in the optimal position to help others of your own volition.

What life advice have you been told that shifted your world’s perspective? Please share in the comments below!